Self Care- Episode 4

This episode is all about self-care. You requested and we listened. Every Mama wants to know how they can justify taking time for Mom. Some Mamas, if asked the question might be scratching their heads saying, what is self-care? I haven’t seen that since before having kids. Well, today we are going to talk about what self care is, why we need to do it, barriers that stand in the way and 10 ways we partake in it. We also give a great how to guide on creating your self-care routine. 

Definition of self care - Self care is the ability to take care of the activities of daily living such as feeding, showering, wearing clean clothes, etc. It’s also taking care of your self from a mental stand point

Why we need to do it:  Now, as Mamas, some days we may not get to squeeze a shower in but I think it is fair to say that today’s episode is going to be about doing a bit more than basic needs but rather how to allow yourself the freedom to still maintain YOU and your identity, sanity and god-given talents. Yeah I read this awesome bit in the Huffington Post that Mia Redrick wrote about self care that she said her mother, “discovered that, in order to be a great mom, you must feel great about both yourself and your life” Also if you take time to go do something for yourself to recharge then you’ll be more present, which is better than being worn out and partially present.

Barriers to self-care

Screen time

Negative self talk

Perception

Feeling guilty for asking for help

Mom guilt

10 ways to engage in self-care

  1. Journal & brain dump
  2. Fresh air 
  3. Treat yo’ self
  4. Alone time
  5. Delegate a task
  6. Screen free time
  7. Read or listen to a podcast
  8. Make your appointments
  9. Buy yourself a pick me up
  10. Get with your village

Engage in Hygge - “Hoo-Guh” - I was reading the New Yorker andLouisa Thomsen Brits, a British-Danish writer, casts hygge as a state of mindfulness: how to make essential and mundane tasks dignified, joyful, and beautiful, how to live a life connected with loved ones.

 

How to establish a good self-care routine

1 Think about the kinds of things that really drain and bring you down -  For me, it is a dirty and cluttered house!  Start eliminating or reducing things that drain you from your daily routine.

2. What ENERGIZES and re-charges you? Do any of the items listed above re-charge your soul? Where can you begin to add in one of these items, each day?

3 Figure out your barriers, what is specifically holding you back? Looking at your phone too much, focusing on the negatives, talking bad about yourself, believing self-care is selfish; what do you want to discard and let go?

4 Figure out when you have time for most it will be the mornings and evenings so how can you maximize the time?  I typically go with inspiring and energizing in the morning to pump up the day and then relaxing at night…

 

Notable Quotes

“Taking good care of YOU means the people in your life will receive the best of you rather than what’s left of you.” -Carl Bryan

“I want my kids to have the best of me, not the rest of me.” - unknown

“Put yourself at the top of your to do list every single day and everything else will fall into place.” - unknown

“You owe yourself the love, you so freely give to others.” - unknown