The Comedy of Motherhood with Riona O'Connor - Episode 39

   

 

 

My guest today is quite amazing. Here is her bio.

Hey! I’m Riona aka The Unnatural Woman. I write funny songs and parodies and make ridiculous videos to make you laugh and take life a lot less seriously. My humour is as dry as a breast feeders vagina. I have no idea what I’m doing in life or motherhood and I am not one of those people with their shit together. I love cynicism and hope in equal measure and I hate different things on different days. My own brain is my worst enemy so I try not to listen to her much. She can be a right old bag.

I also act and do voice overs. I have spent years in Londons West End and touring the world with shows like The Commitments, Beauty and the Beast and Twelfth Night. You’ll have heard me in computer games like Elite Dangerous, the odd Subway commercial and in adverts singing about bread. You can also hear me singing vocals for Beano Toons on their Frozen parody ‘Don’t Let It Go!’ – which is awesome, as I’ve been reading the Beano while pooping for 30 years!

My husband Nicoll is a computer game developer of crazy games such as time-travelling-lumberjack-em-up  FIST OF AWESOME and drivey-drivey-smash-em-up Maximum Car. We have a two year old son whose favourite things include dangerously high slides, Teletubbies and tantrums.

 

In this episode we dive into 

  • Comedy and acting
  • Being told no
  • Depression/ Anxiety
  • Body image
  • Breastfeeding
  • and so much more! Don't miss this episode!

You can find out more about Riona O'Connor here or here

The Secret To A Happy Life - Episode 38

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Most of us dream of one thing. We wish to be happy. There are five specific areas where we tend to wish and lust towards the goal and dream of getting to the top of the happiness mountain. 

1. Job - Our parents told us, and we tell our kids, do whatever you want to do when you grow up, as long as you are happy. Then, we sit in our cubicles at work and yearn for the job across that street because at the current moment, we aren’t happy. We are bored. We are yearning for this mystical career that brings us joy and contentment at every turn.

2. Marriage - When it comes to marriages we are in a state where more people leave than stay because they just aren’t happy any more. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying every person should stay in a marriage because there are definitely circumstances where it is safer for the spouse to leave than stay. However, by and large we leave our spouses because we think life is too short to be “unhappy”. We firmly believe we deserve “happiness” and if we aren’t getting it where we are, right now, then we try and find it in someone else.

3. Money - As far as money goes, if we have more than we need, that is definitely the key to happiness, right? We buy and buy and buy with the money we don’t have, to fill our house(s) to impress people that we don’t even like. We think that if we go get our nails done or buy this instagram worthy outfit or join this costly pyramid scheme/network marketing jewelry company, we will then be fulfilling this void of passion and we will be ultimately happy!

4. Health - How familiar does it feel to say, man, if I lost just 15 lbs, I’d be happy. Once I lose that weight, I can buy that dress, or eat that cookie, or go on that vacation. If I can just invest in this $280 program, I’d be able to get to where I want to be, which is happy. 

5. Time - If I had more time in my day, I’d get to do the things I want, like exercise and read and hang out with my friends/spouse. If I only had one more hour in the day, I could have finished writing that book or working on that project at my day job. I could have made a healthy dinner with just one more hour in the day. My kids could have got that bath to rid themselves the of three days worth of dirt under their fingernails. Oh man, I would have been so happy if I would have had just one. more. hour. in the day. 

We hold happiness as if it is heaven. As if, it is the holy grail. The creme de la creme. The end all be all. The top of the most beautiful mountain. That is where happiness lies. But, what happens when we get to the top of the mountain? We are happy and then what? We have to go back down the mountain. A line from Don Draper out of one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men asks, “What is happiness? It’s the point before you realize you need more happiness.”  We are chasing a state. Happiness is a temporary state of emotion. If we chase a temporary state, we are only setting ourselves up for failure and sadness. I believe it is okay to feel happy. BUT, we shouldn’t invest our lives in mindset that IF and only IF we get to this point, we will be happy. As the Moana song says it best, happiness is right where you are. In life, it’s about riding the waves of the grit and grind. Loving right where you are. It’s about making your current state, whether that is happy, angsty, mad, surprised, or whatever, work. It’s the mindset of finding the good in everything, as hard as it may be. Let me give you an example. Today, I woke up mad. We had a date night last night and we stayed out too late and had one drink too many which means more than two is too many for me these days. My child was up about 4 times and we had to wake up early to get out of the house. I couldn’t help but yearn for more sleep and to cancel the birthday party we were heading out of town for today. I thought, I would be much happier if I could just crawl up in a bawl, lock my children out of my bedroom, sleep and shower and shave(for the first time this month) and THEN, I’d be able to be happy. Since none of those dreams were coming true, I felt mad and unhappy. But then, I looked at my daughters eyes when she hopped in the car and saw how stinking sweet she is, and how much fun they are going to have today. I held my husband’s hand in the car and thought about how hard we work together, to make it work. I thought about the sore neck I have from cuddling with my sweet babe all night and felt comforted by the fact, I’m so needed. 

The key to happiness is not to chase it by running from your current state. The key is finding the good in the depths of despair and uncomfortable grit of the day to day grind. It’s the mindset of making it work, or making it better. The key to happiness is to look at your current challenges and struggles and make a decision today to run toward them instead of away from them. It is only at that point, you are able to be happy. Stop running away. Go home today and make it better. Happiness is a choice. It doesn’t happen on accident and it definitely doesn’t happen all the time. But, if you find the good right where you are in the thick of the messy, I promise you, you’ll find a lot more of those happy moments. 

So, how can we find those happy moments? 

    1    Get Organized

    2    Ask your self when do I feel happiest?

    3    Ask for help/ Hire help (!) 

    4    Find your tribe

    5    Work ONLY on plan A - forget plan B

Quotes: 

“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy unless you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you. -Ralph Marston

“Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.” -Buddha

“A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.” 

From Fashion Showroom to Work at Home Mom with Brianne Manz - Episode 37

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Brianne Manz is a Mom and blogger over at Stroller In The City. Brianne shows other Mom's how to still look great in the thick of motherhood! She went from a Fashion Showroom Owner to a work at home mom blogger.

  • In this episode we dive into
  • What it's like to go after your dream
  • What it's like to own your own fashion show room
  • What it's like to transition to a work at home blogger
  • How to make money from blogging
  • Life in New York City

You can find out more about Brianne at www.strollerinthecity.com

Things You Don't Know About Fall But Should - Episode 36

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Did you know that Autumn/Fall rates higher than any other season as being the favorite? From pumpkin everything to cozy sweaters to leaves on the trees to football tailgating, it is no wonder we love this season. It’s the beginning of welcoming a string of holidays that bring families and friends together. When we think of fall we instantly feel embraced by the warmth and coziness that accompanies the season. Today we are going to be giving you some statistics and information and fall favorites that you may not have known or thought about before. This episode will give you some practical ideas of goodness to add to your fall repertoire.  

In this episode we dive into...

Fun Facts About Fall

  • Why do leaves change color?
  • Sex drive is highest in fall
  • There is a scientific reason people gain weight in the fall
  • You shed more often
  • Americans typically refer to this time of year as “fall,” while the British use the word “autumn.”
  • First thanksgiving
  • Butterflies

 

Fun Activities To Bring The Family Together

  • Tree bark rubbing-Put white paper around a tree and use crayons to color on the paper so it has a bark texture
  • Painting with acorns: You use a shoe box and tape white paper to the bottom. Then you throw in acorns that have been dipped in paint and shake shake shake the box so the acorns roll around and paint on the paper
  • Leaf painting-Collect a bunch of leaves. Put leaves on paper and use a sponge to dip in paint and then dap on the leaf so the paint is around the leaf when you lift it up. 
  • After carving pumpkins if your child does not like the feeling of the pumpkin innards on their hands you can put in a gallon plastic bag and they can then play with it like that. Also mess free if you’re worried about that 
  • You can make edible pumpkin spice play-doh. Not kidding I almost want to eat it, because it’s pumpkin.
  • Homemade Pine Cone Bird Feeders - My kids are obsessed with birds and pine cones. So, this one is so easy. You take a pine cone and tie some twine around the top of the pine cone. Then, you can let your kids spread some peanut butter ( a little goes a long way) around the pine cone and then roll it in bird food. You can then hang it anywhere where your kids could see it. 
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Fun Kids Books

Room On The Broom

Duck and Goose Find a Pumpkin by Tad Hills

The Hallow-Weiner

Boo!

Fun Decor

Fun Food

Fun Clothes

QUOTES: 

Candy corn has always been my favorite vegetable 

Autumn shows how beautiful change can be

Life starts all over again when it get’s crisp in the fall. F. Scott Fitzgerald

My summer bikini weather wasn’t ready but my autumn sweater body is on point!

 

 

Finding Balance + Unleashing Your Humble BA + Home Birth with Sarah Bivens - Episode 35

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My guest today is Sarah Bivens is a balanced lifestyle coach, trainer, podcaster and mamapreneur. She works with mamas who are looking to create their own sense of balance through healthy living, mindset and self-love. She also co-hosts a podcast on home birth with her husband Matthew called Doing It At Home after they made the decision to have a home birth and noticed a certain lack of empowering conversation around the topic. She lives in Atlanta, GA with Matthew, their daughter Maya and their smelly adopted hound Watson. I’m pumped to learn more about her upbringing, her career, and her podcast and home birth which seems like a wild idea to me. Even though I am most likely 99.9% sure I’m not having any more babies, I’m still fascinated by this idea and can’t wait to learn more about it.  So let’s get to it today!

In this episode we dive into...

  • Being a sponge to bad habits as a child
  • What helped overcome the unhealthy behaviors
  • Home birth - is it painful? what could go wrong? Do a lot of people do them? 
  • Exercise after kids
  • How to squeeze things into the pockets of your day

You can learn more about Sarah at 

sarahbivens.com

The launch you won't want to miss can be found here! www.sarahbivens.com/mama

Notable Book: A Woman's Worth

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Motherhood - Episode 34

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We are addressing this topic because I think it is easy to believe we personally have the worst lives possible. I mean we know others have it worse than us but it’s easy to want to throw a pity party and think others have it easier than us. That other Moms must not be going through the thick of things like we are. It’s easy to believe you must be the worst mom out there when you have a mom fail, misstep or child screaming they hate your guts. We want you to take a different approach. Today we are going to go through a self reflection of the top 5 emotions(both good and bad) that we each feel as Moms on the daily. We are going to go through the emotion, explain the scenarios in which we feel this emotion creep in and what we plan to do the next time the emotion creeps in. In short,  If its an emotional state we don’t feel comfortable in, we’ll figure out a way to get rid of it. If it’s a state we enjoy to be in, then we’ll look at how we can ride the happy state a little longer. After this episode, I’ll chat with you about a challenge I have for you to do a similar exercise. 

Emotions

  1. Anxious or Panicked
  2. Overwhelm
  3. Elated or Happy 
  4. Surprised or Confused
  5. Bossy
  6. Pride
  7. Fear or Worry
  8. Hostile
  9.  Joy
  10.  Confused

What we can do for a successful rollercoaster ride

  1. Recognize the emotion - 
  2. Embrace it for what it is (It is OKAY to feel the way we feel - but we’ve got to find a way to change our mindset when the emotion comes knocking)
  3. Attach it to a situation(s) where the emotion tends to run HOT
  4. Assess what this emotion does for you if it is positive, then how can you be more present and create a similar mindsetmore often in your day to day. If it is a negative emotion, how can you change your mindset and create a more empathetic and curious mindset when problems or situations arise. How can we do all things with love. 

Notable QUOTES 

“It takes someone really brave to be a mother, someone strong to raise a child and someone special to love someone more than herself.” -anonymous 

A real mom: Emotional, yet the rock. Tired, but keeps going. Worried, but full of hope. Impatient, yet patient. Overwhelmed, but never quits. Amazing, even though doubted. Wonderful, even in the chaos. Life changer, every single day. -Rachel Martin 

“Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. - Dennis Kimbro

 

There are a lot of times in life when we can’t control all that happens to us. We can’t control the adversity. The only thing we can control are these emotions. So, I hope that we were able to give you some emotions and situations that feel familiar to you in your own life and provided a few ideas on what you can do to ensure you are having a receptive mindset and insight into situations instead of a reactive one. Because typically, these wild emotions come when we are being REACTIVE to a situation instead of receptive.

Turning An Adversity Into A Mission with Elisheva Schwartz - Episode 33

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My guest today is Elisheva Schwartz. 

Elisheva is a dyslexia researcher, mother, wife , intelligence re- define -er and podcast host. She’s on a mission to decode the dyslexic mind, and empower the dyslexic community to fully understand both the strengths and the difficulties of the processing style.

These days Elisheva travels the world to talk about learning differences, dyslexia, and self esteem, has a podcast ranked number 29 on the iTunes category in Education, and a thriving online business ( as well as two adorable children and a husband), but life was not always this full of ease.

By third grade Elisheva was being kicked out of class and into the hallway of the principal's office, by fifth grade she was getting suspended and by the time she was a junior in High School, Elisheva had dropped out school all together for half of the year, unsure if the classroom was the place for her.

 

In this episode we dive into...

  • What dyslexia is and isn't
  • What we can do to recognize it in our own children
  • What approach you can take to helping your child succeed
  • How a parent and child can cope with any sort of developmental delay
  • How we can turn a challenge into a mission that is making a difference
  • Morning and Night rituals 

 

You can find out more about Elisheva at ... http://www.elishevaschwartz.com

How To Avoid Burnout When Motherhood Is Hard - Episode 32

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WHAT CAUSES IT:

Trying to be super Mom 

More women in the workforce and higher demanding jobs

High-need baby

Unsupportive environment 

Mother’s personal challenges (ex. sleep deprivation,depression or anxiety)

Unrealistic expectations for parenting (social media can cause this when comparing yourself to the “perfect Mom” and feeling like you have to be her. ) 

 

HOW DO WE RECOGNIZE IT: (Are you burned out?) 

Ask yourself the following questions and if you answer yes to any of them, you might be facing a little burnout yourself!

Do you feel like you might lose it?

Are you resenting time with your kids? 

Do you feel you aren’t as present with your kids as you used to be? 

Are you just plain exhausted all. the. time?

Do you feel a heaviness in your chest frequently?

Headaches? High resting heart rate

Do you beg for the bedtime hour to get here faster every. single. day

Do you purchasing things left and right to try and find various forms of contentment?

Do you feel uneasy and discontent with your homelife? Do you yearn for a vacation?

OR maybe yearn for one but feel mom guilt for even thinking about taking time away?

 

HOW WE CAN FIX IT: 

Ignore outsiders opinions 

Don’t compare yourself

Get Dad or significant other involved

Relate with other moms

Help another mom out if you feel like they may be burned out. Don’t call them out and say hey you look super burned out but maybe just say Hey you’re doing an awesome job.

 

Intentional designof your life needs to take place.

1. Take a hot minute for yourself and declutter your mind

2. Slow down and simplify your schedule 

3. Manage Expectations  

4. Find what fills your cup and fuels your soul and commit to that - 

 

How To Build A Stronger Marriage with Ashley Willis - Episode 31

 

Ashley Willis is a wife, mommy to four little boys, writer and entrepreneur. She's a popular blogger on topics related to marriage, faith, family, motherhood and her own personal experiences related to anxiety and depression. She, and her amazing husband, Dave, have a passion for encouraging and inspiring others through books, blogs, videos and speaking events. Their Facebook page has almost a million people following so you can clearly see their content is rich and can help you in your marriage. 

 

In this episode we dive into...

  • Our biggest needs are as men and women.
  •  The biggest fail that we are doing as a couple
  • The hardest stage of parenting and how can we love through the tough stuff
  • How often should we actually do date night
  • How do we make our spouse feel important when our main focus is on the kids? Most times it is out of necessity for us because our kids demand our attention at every moment.
  • When struggles come, what are a few things we can do to offer forgiveness and move forward to be stronger as a unit?
  • Some practical things we can do to communicate and increase intimacy.
  • How to fix a wrecked conversation between your spouse
  • Some things that we tend to do or take on in our life that seem like at the time they are great decisions but often lead to just the opposite
  • How we can be more intentional and be sure those items don’t stand in the way of the marriage
  • What is the single biggest piece of advice you can give to creating a strong marriage

Notable Quote

Don’t worry about other people’s opinions of you. God never told you to impress people; only to love them. 

You can find out about more about Ashley and her work at ...

https://www.daveandashleywillis.com

or on Facebook at

https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriages/

 

How to craft your Family Mission Statement

1. Make a commitment. Have the conversation with your spouse and set a time this week to do it after the kids go to bed.

2. Write down 4 key values you want to instill in yourselves and in your children. Is it about finding value in every human on this planet. Is it to live the Godly way, is it to respect and put the wellbeing of what’s inside your four walls at the forefront of every decision. Whatever it is, write it down.

3. Consider each family members strengths, weaknesses and interests. Then you can begin to write your statement.

Best Ever Kid's Party Themes - Episode 30

Today we are giving you a super sweet episode devoted to helping you plan for your next kid’s party. Life is so busy and who has time to come up with all of these awesome birthday themes on their own? Well, problem solved right here, Mama. We have a pretttyyyy cool list of party themes and ideas. Now, the obvious choice here is to celebrate a birthday. But, what if you wanted to do something out of the ordinary like a great back to school party to get to know the new kids at school/pre-school? Or, maybe your kids are like mine and have their birthday right around a holiday and it always gets overshadowed by that date and you want to just give a time to celebrate at the 1/2 year point? OR, maybe you just want to spend some quality time loving up on your kid and do something fun with some close family members. Whatever the celebration these ideas are sure to please the crowd. You don’t even have to tell them you go it from us, you can pretend it was all your idea. 

In this episode we go into detail on the following themes.

  • Under the sea 
  • Carnival
  • Backyard Camping 
  • Cops and Robbers
  • Space
  • Let’s “pig” out
  • Bubbles and balloons
  • Farm animal party
  • Bug
  • Mad Scientist
  • Unicorn and Fairy
  • Mermaid
  • Donut or pancakes and pajamas
  • *Mom party

You can find details on the Catch This Mama Pinterest board - Kids Party Ideas

Raising Strong, Happy and Fearless Daughters with Dr. Tim Jordan - Episode 29

My guest today is Dr. Tim Jordan.  He is the leading expert on parenting girls and helping them navigate through their normal developmental transformations, allowing them to emerge as strong, happy and fulfilled women. A Developmental and Behavioral pediatrician, International Speaker and Author, Dr. Tim demystifies the behavior of tween and adolescent girls to help parents build closer relationships with their daughters based on trust and understanding rather than parent out of fear. He has more than 30 years experience working with girls of all ages through his private counseling practice, support groups, his summer camp and his Strong Girls, Strong World school programs. Dr. Tim trained with the renowned Dr. T. Berry Brazelton at Harvard Medical School, where he developed his proven methods. He also serves as an adjunct professor at Webster University in St. Louis and as a local and national media consultant.

Dr. Tim and his wife, Anne, have raised three children, Kelly, TJ and John, which they consider their most important work.

In this episode we dive into the following items...

  • How to teach your girls to do the right thing when no one is looking
  • How to make sure they love you and can feel your love
  • Promiscuity
  • How do you teach your girls the value of NO be it their parents telling them no OR them personally saying NO later in life with conviction
  • What it means to miss the forest for the trees
  • Body Image
  • How can we help create daughters with strong, positive body images
  • How can we help them through the times where girls say or do crazy things on social media
  • What do we as parents need to know about social media?
  • Helicopter parents
  • How we can step back and let and let them figure things out, overcome challenges and take risks in an effective way
  • What efforts can be made to ultimately raise, strong, happy, and fearless daughters

Find more out about Tim and get all his resources at... www.drtimjordan.com

 

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Mom Struggling Well with Emily Thomas - Episode 28

My guest today is Emily Thomas of the Mom Struggling Well Podcast. She is a wife, a mother hustler to a 9 and 5 year old and a believer. Emily once taught juveniles in the prison system, and that did not kill her. This is how she knew she could survive parenthood. Before kids she was a teacher, nurse, and world traveler. Now she mostly travels around her house picking up toys. She has a hunch that she isn’t the only one who feels like they’re stumbling from one hot mess to the next in a way that must be hard to watch. Her mission parallels with the CTM brand and in that she wants her listeners to know that every Mama’s world isn’t at perfect as the internet makes it out to be and that it isn’t just you who can’t quite get it together. She is struggling too. So, in this episode I’m going to chat with Emily about her humor, her ability to overcome adversities like abuse, infertility, anxiety, depression and so much more. We are also going to talk about what has inspired her to keep going and what she is passionate about as a Mama. Let’s get to it.

 

In this episode we dive into...

  • Getting engaged the day after you meet someone
  • Leaving an abusive relationship
  • Finding the right man at an unexpected time
  • Living across seas while trying to get pregnant
  • Coping with not being able to have biological children
  • Homeschooling
  • Being honest with things that annoy you
  • Being awkward and feeling like an outsider
  • Starting a podcast
  • What is your biggest challenge as a Mama?
  • Notable Quote:

A woman who fears the Lord is not afraid of bad news. Her heart is firm, trusting the Lord. -Psalm 112:7

 

A $400 Grocery Challenge - What We Learned Episode 27

Emily and myself took a grocery challenge. It was, as the title suggests a $400 dollar a monthchallenge for my family of 5 and her family of 4 1/2. I knew it would be challenging, but I had read all these challenges about people eating for crazy low amounts like $3.00 a day and I felt compelled to give it my best go. Emily was like WTF … you sure you want to make it that low? and of course, I’m though pSSSSHHH yeah.. go big or go home. Well, unfortunately, I went home. Well, technically, I didn’t go home. I went to the store and spent way too much. My mission was simple eat food. mostly plants and proteins. What I didn’t realize is that all these challenges I was seeing on Pinterest involved a bajillion refined carbs a day and we just aren’t willing to do that… When I would Pinterest how to eat on budget it was .. spaghetti, tacos, etc. and my husband yearns to be on more of the whole 30 diet. So, I may have spoiled how we did but in this episode we are going to chat about how we actually did, what we learned, what a realistic budget looks like for us, tips to save money moving forward, some things we’ve tried to make it a bit easier, and some of our favorite super cheap recipes. 

What we learned - In this episode we dive into the following items...

  1.     Choose less expensive meat cuts
  2.     Spread it out 
  3.     Plan plan plan 
  4.     But learn to pivot 
  5.     Get educated 
  6.     Use what is in season 
  7.     Be prepared for the unknown
  8.     Shop at Aldi’s or Walmart
  9.     Make a list 
  10.     Shop organic “smartly” (clean 15) 
  11.     Use random things in the back of your cabinet or freezer. Be creative with what’s in there 
  12.     Don’t eat out 
  13.     Eat leftovers

Navigating The Desert Of Waiting For A Child with Olivia Ryan - Episode 26

Today I’m chatting with an extraordinary Mom who definitely owns her mom life. She is so inspiring and honest and courageous and I can’t wait for you to meet her. Her name is Liv Ryan. She is a passionate wife, mama, writer, speaker and health coach who stays home but enlists a lot of help from babysitters and preschool so she can keep her brain nice and occupied! What’s incredible about Liv is that at one point she wasn’t sure if she’d ever et to hold the title “Mama” and her journey BEGAN with not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4 miscarriages. And that’s just the beginning. In this episode we are going to chat with Liv about her journey to motherhood, adoption, writing a book, starting a support group, becoming a speaker, and how faith played the biggest role in all of this.

 

In this episode we dive into

  • Divorce
  • Family
  • Being an angsty Mom when life isn't going according to plan
  • Waiting for a child
  • What 6 miscarriages feels like 
  • What adoption is like
  • What it is like to have a child with a special need
  • Loving through the tough stuff
  • The emotional rollercoaster of it all
  • Why parenting is tough
  • How to get into reading the bible
  • Who to lean on when things don't go the way you want them to
  • Navigating the desert of waiting for a child
  • Having a strong support system

Notable Quotes:

Wherever you are, be all in.

Obedience leads to desire.

Creating Responsible Screen Time For Kids - Episode 25

 

PERKS OF TECHNOLOGY

  • Enhance your learning abilities
  • Encourage self reliance/independence
  • Increase communication from infant to toddlers
  • It can definitely entertain, capture great memories of family time and increase access to various sight words or reading material that may otherwise have been neglected.

 

NEGATIVES OF OVEREXPOSURE

  • Decreased physical activity
  • Less social interaction amongst family and peers
  • Weaker emotional bonds
  • Desensitization from extreme content
  • Less patience (hello DVR and fast forward, my kids are always asking me to fast forward and have zero patience with commercials)

 

    

    The American Academy of Pediatrics discourages media use, except for video-chatting, by children younger than 18 to 24 months. If you want to introduce digital media to children ages 18 to 24 months, make sure it's high quality and avoid solo media use. For children ages 2 to 5, limit screen time to one hour a day of high-quality programming. As your child grows, a one-size-fits-all approach doesn't work as well. You'll need to decide how much media to let your child use each day and what types of media are appropriate.

    

Again, we briefly mentioned this above but Why people use screen time? 

  •     Distract kids if you need to get something done
  •     Educational/ learning tool
  •     Family fun time (movie night)     

Why we should decrease screen time?

    (From Mayo Clinic we can look through and paraphrase) Unstructured playtime is more valuable for a young child's developing brain than is electronic media. Despite the fact that many digital media programs claim to be educational, children younger than age 2 are more likely to learn and remember information from a live presentation than they are from a video.

By age 2, children can benefit from certain types of screen time, such as programming with music, movement and stories. However, passive screen time shouldn't replace reading, playing or problem-solving. Co-view with your child to help your child understand what he or she is seeing and apply it in real life.

Also, it's crucial to monitor the shows your child is watching and the games or apps he or she is playing to make sure they are appropriate. Avoid fast-paced programming, which young children have a hard time understanding, apps with a lot of distracting content, and violent media. Eliminate advertising on apps, since young children have trouble telling the difference between ads and factual information.

As your child grows, keep in mind that too much or poor quality screen time has been linked to:

  •  Obesity
  •  Irregular sleep schedules and shorter duration of sleep
  •  Behavioral problems
  •  Loss of social skills
  •  Violence
  •   Less time for play

HOW TO CREATE RESPONSIBLE SCREEN TIME FOR KIDS 

  • Create a Summer Time Screen Time Checklist - (refer to pinterest board) 
  • OR Technology Tickets - You give each kid 12 tickets and they can be used for a variety of screens in an allotment of 30 minutes. Once they are gone, that is it! They can get them taken away if not adhering to certain rules, or if they are having various behaviors. 
  • UNPLUG - once a month just choose a day, or a weekend and commit to completely unplugging.
  • Try the 1 to 5 ratio. For ever 1 minute of tech time, you should engage in 5 minutes of social interaction, playing, reading, etc. 
  • Quit cold turkey (If you do this you will want to have some fun activities lined up so the kids wont even notice that they aren’t watching TVs or using iPads. 
  • No computer, iPad, TV in kids rooms “screen free” zones-this also helps to be able to monitor what your kids are looking at. (My oldest daughter Claire actually asked me if she could have a TV in her room. And I said “No we don’t need TVs in our rooms and she's like “But Mom you have one in your room!” Haha she had me there) We were’t allowed to have TVs in our room going up because my Mom thought that if you are going to watch TV you can at least be in the same room.)
  • Family dinners (no TV or tech at dinner time) 
  • No TV or devices during homeworkOR from say 6-8pm at night
  • Require kids to charge their devices in another room at night
  • Use less screen time yourself

 

 

ONE WAY TO BREAK THE TANTRUM that may come after taking the electronic away …

 

We side step…

  • Talk about what you get to do instead. Hey, we get go outside or ask what they want for their next snack or meal… or even what color is a banana? It works…
  • Let them know this isn’t forever and that they will get to play again 
  • Explain WHY: When they get upset Discuss why you are taking it away instead of saying, because I said so and I make the rules around here… In stead explain the timeframe in which they’ve been on it and how it compares to the time they spend doing other things like playing, reading 
  • OR just tell them (if they are young) that it will rot their brain. They believe anything you say when their young…..
  • Activities to do instead of having screen time? (Busy activites) 
  • Cardboard box
  • Coloring
  •  Legos
  •  Busy bags (found on pinterest) 
  •  Exercise (park, hiking, just run around outside) - leap frog, red rover, kick ball
  •  Crafts ( I always start the day with what do you want to do today girls? and they NEVER say tv. It is either a craft or go somewhere or do something fun, so why should I cater to a tv that they don’t ultimately want to watch more than doing something super engaging with their family)
  •  Check out episode 19 all about 50 Fun things to do this summer!

 

Notable Quotes 

 “We’re getting so pulled in by computers and technology, and our kids have their faces in computers all day. The human relationship is being diminished by this” -Lenny Kravitz

 

    Louis CK on refusing to let kids preoccupy themselves with cell phones “i don’t let ‘em have it. Yeah, it’s east. Just say, ‘No you can’t have it; it’s bad for you’ But ‘I want it,’ “I don’t care what you want’ 

 

“I fear the day that technology will surpass our human interaction. The world will have a generation of idiots.” - Albert Einstein

 

“Technology is a useful servant but a dangerous master” - Christian Lous Lange

 

SPONSOR of Episode 25 - Samantha Owenson Photography & Design - you can learn more about her amazing work here  - 

www.samanthaowenson.net

 

The Darkest Hour Right Before The Sunrise with Becky Gardner - Episode 24

Becky Gardner is the epitome of a warrior mama. She has survived a long list of adversities and we dive into them all in this episode. She is a home schooling Mama to 4 children and just like he last name is a big time gardner. Their entire back yard is a garden. Grab your cup of coffee and tune in because she is just what you need this week. Some of the items we dive into in this episode include...

  • What having cancer as a child was like
  • How this impacted her getting pregnant and having kids when she thought she'd never be able to
  • What homeschooling is like
  • How to keep low tech kids
  • What drove her to have a massive garden
  • and so much more...

Notable quote:

"The Darkest Hour Is Always Right Before The Sunrise"

How To Get Your Picky Eaters...Eating with Brooke Krantz - Episode 23

Mamas. You are going to LOVE this episode. I'm not even kidding. Today Emily, myself and Speech Pathologist, Brooke Krantz, chat about one of the most common challenges amongst us Mamas and how we can create BETTER eaters. Phew. Problem solved! 

 

In this episode we dive into...

  • Proven Strategies To Get Your Picky Eater… Eating!
  • Some reasons why we get picky eaters
  • How early is too early to start looking at this an issue
  • Proven routines to make sure we are establishing good habits
  • When we should just chill out and let them eat what they want to eat
  • How we recognize if there is a problem
  • Best vitamins out there for kids to eat
  • How to turn the picky eaters around
  • Milestone ages where things start to turn around
  • How about children with special needs
  • Creating Food rules
  • Setting standards for meal time
  • What if your kid doesn’t like meat? This seems to be a common one. What are the best sources to make sure they are getting protein outside of peanut butter.
  • How about vegetables? This is the biggest complaint. My kid won’t eat anything GREEN! 
  • What if your kid doesn’t like the texture of various foods
  • What is the difference between a picky eater and a problem eater
  • What is feeding therapy with a speech therapis

 

Resources:

choosemyplate.gov

 

Empowering Our Children with Author Maria Dismondy - Episode 22

 

She is an Award-winning author and her name is Maria Dismondy. So, what is so cool about her is that she inspires lives through herstories about topics challenging today’s modern child. I think children have it a lot harder than I did growing. Not necessarily from a monetary or tangible aspect. But rather,  harder in regards to communication, dealing with conflict, understanding one another. We live in a swipe right to get a date and stare at the iPad to learn your ABCs kind of world and that is why I wanted this author on my podcast. Maria’s background in early education and commitment to teach the importance of character building enables her to touch lives all over the world. She is touring as a public speaker in schools, community forums, and at national conferences. How fun is that? I’m kind of envious, actually. I just record a podcast from my closet. Occasionally I hit the water table in the backyard and dip my feet in the baby pool with my kids. Does that count as exhilarating?  Maria’s eighth book(that’s right I said 8th), The Jelly Donut Difference, drives home the important message of generosity and kindness. When Maria isn’t writing, she can be found embarking on adventures throughout southeast Michigan and beyond, where she lives with her husband Dave and three book-loving children.

In this episode we dive into 

  • Her journey to writing children's books
  • Why she writes and what she wants to accomplish
  • How she wants to boost courage and self confidence
  • How to create the life you want in the midst of rejection
  • and a whole lot more about Maria!

She loves the ...

  • Rainforest App
  • Carrie Elle - www.carrieelle.com

Quote to live by:

"Your children learn more from what you are than what you teach" - W.E.B Dubois

Dear Mom Shamers - Episode 21

Today, Emily and I have a bold statement for all the mom shamers. Typically we keep things PC and enjoy the lighthearted topics. But, today we are linking arms with all of you Mamas. We are playing one crazy game of Red Rover. It’s time we get all the Mamas on the same side. So, that when that one lonely player we call the Mom Shamer comes runnin' at us they get knocked down and we stand tall, together.

 

In this episode we dive into

  • Various topics/situations in which people are Mom Shamed and SHOULDN'T be
  • Tips on how to lock up the mom shaming

1. Realize that no one is on point 100% of the time

2. Put yourself in their shoes and give them the benefit of the doubt

3. Be supportive of other Moms - Proverbs 11:27 reads "It is so easy to find the dirt on someone. Be the one who finds the gold!"  Offer a community instead of a place for criticism

4. Back to what your Mom taught you -  “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all”  

5. The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It 

 

I want to give a shout out to our Sponsor today and that is Leesa Mattress. Seriously gals…It’s my favorite mattress ever. I’m about to buy one for every person in our family because they seem to want to come and sleep on my bed all the time now. And when they do… they sleep like babies… Okay,  I never got that saying because babies don’t sleep well. At least ours don’t. But, any who the kids sleep awesome on it. I’m going to give you a code fornot $75 but a$100 off your next Leesa purchase.  Leesa ships these premium foam mattresses compressed in a box to your door. They offer free shipping, a 100-night risk-free trial and easy returns. What I love most about Leesaalso proudly donate one mattress for every ten we sell. Go to www.leesa.com/catcthismama and get yours NOW, because this is the last month for this offer. I think you’ve got to get over there. Trust me, you’ll want to catch this deal. 

 

Finding Peace When Life Doesn't Make Sense with Jen Hatzung - Episode 20

Today’s guest isJen Hatzung creator of The Mom Life Podcast. Jen is a Mama to a beautiful little girl named Eleanor and wife to a man she calls a “cute sailor”. Jen has a lot going on in her world. She sells beauty products, specifically lipstick, does the podcast in her free time, and is a full time Mother. She also is admittedly a full time coffee and wine drinker. Her pictures and stories on social media are too cute and make her life look just about perfect! But, don’t let that fool you because this Mama has been through some tough stuff. Today we are going to dive into her challenges with infertility and the long journey of overcoming that adversity. We will also chat with chat with her about the purpose behind the Mom Life Podcast, and what she hopes to accomplish with this season of her life.

 

You can find more about Jen at jenhatzung.com

Tune into her podcast call The Mom Life Podcast on iTunes today!

You can find her on Instagram @momlifepodcast