Today we are going to talk about alignment. You’ve heard me say it on a few podcasts but I’ve never really dove into what this means. Really, how much it could change the landscape of your day to day life.
Chelsea Wiley is a Masters prepared nurse and Family Nurse Practitioner who has also studied Eastern practices and holistic medicine. She is a mother of 2 girls. While working as a Labor and Delivery Nurse and studying within Family Practice she recognized that there was a lot missing when it came to preparing women for motherhood. Most of her patients took only a birthing class and were sent home with little to no resources of how to take care of themselves or their baby. Chelsea was determined to find a better way and wrote the book Mystical Motherhood to guide women through fertility, conscious conception, safety in birth, a mindful pregnancy, a healing postpartum period, and steps to create a brilliant child. She now works with women around the world taking them through this process and watching them create happy and conscious families. I am pumped today to learn from Chelsea and really get into her theories on diet and toxins as it relates to conscious conception. How to maintain a healthy lifestyle into pregnancy and beyond and then something that is different than the typical approach is how to connect to your baby in the womb and enhance yourself using ancient yogic science!
With it being the time of year here where temps are finally starting to creep into the 50’s we are DYING to get outside and and get some fresh air. Let me tell you, my mood is suffering. FOR REAL. And if my mood is suffering, so are my kids. We are encouraging you to get over these cold weather blues and get outside! Here is why!
Why outside: care.com
1) Improves Vision
A study published by the American Academy of Ophthalmology found that kids who spend time playing outside are at a reduced risk of developing nearsightedness. The team of researchers found that a child's chances of developing myopia (nearsidedness) dropped by two percent for each additional hour spent outdoors, per week.
2) Promotes Social Skills
Specifically on the playground- You have to take turns on the slide and play take ect.
The University of Missouri-Kansas' School of Education found that outdoor play strengthens the language and communication interactions between young children who play together at the park.
3) Increases Attention Span
-Kids who play outside are more investigative
An estimated 6.4 million children between the ages of 4 and 17 have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Studies have shown that green outdoor settings appear to reduce ADHD symptoms in children, which includes the exposure they get to natural settings like parks and beaches through after-school and weekend activities. Overall, it's becoming increasingly more apparent that these types of outdoor activities may be widely effective in reducing attention deficit symptoms in children.
4) Reduces Stress
Being outside is a stress relief -it’s relaxing are recharging for kids as well as parents!
In 2014, researchers from the University of Colorado teamed up with educators from Maryland and Colorado to study the effects that green schoolyards had on children's stress levels and resilience. They made the argument that increasing children's exposure to green outdoor spaces (e.g., lush playgrounds) could help decrease children's' stress levels by offering them an escape from life's daily routine. The study said that kids who play outside found "peace away from stresses in the classroom and daily life.”
5) Increases Vitamin D Levels
The American Academy of Pediatrics says that vitamin D offers us several health benefits, such as strengthening bone health and helping to prevent diabetes and heart disease. In order to stave off vitamin D deficiencies in children, the Cleveland Clinic strongly urges parents and child care providers to make sure that their kids receive a healthy dose of the nutrient starting at birth. There are vitamin D supplements that you can take, but you can also get it through a free and natural version: sunlight.
Allow your kids to play outside for a few minutes without sunscreen. (Although sunscreen is extremely useful for blocking out harmful ultraviolet rays that can cause cancer, it's also prevents vitamin D from getting absorbed into the skin.) Then, slather on the lotion.
Of course, if your child burns easily, you should absolutely use the sunscreen -- just make sure to increase your child's intake of vitamin D-heavy foods and supplements. Consult your pediatrician to find the best option for your child.
How to get them outdoors: (active for life is where I found a lot of these)
1. Tell your kids it’s ok to get messy, wet and dirty outside.
2. Limit screen time and warn them when it’s up they have to go outside.
3. Go outside and play with them
4. Set up and outdoor kid friendly play space
5. Have an outdoor play date with other kids. Or even organize a weekly play group.
6. Go for regular walks as a family
7. Have activities planned for kids when they do go outside which leads us to...
Things to do: some of these are no brainers and you can reference our episode 50 fun things to do this summer with your kids episode 19
“Children cannot bounce off the walls if we take away the walls” - Erin Kenny
“When I was a kid my social network was called outside”
A Mama's life is forever changed when she faced the reality of a hysterectomy at age 33. Tune in to hear her amazing story of looking at the positive and humorous side of things!
Moving is no small feat. Prior to kids my family had moved multiple times. There are people who have moved far more than us but we have indeed moved 8 times in 9 years. We used to think it was easy. The last time we moved was over 5 years ago and the key here was that was BEFORE having children. Fast forward. We’ve had three children in 5 years. Emily, also has 3 little tiny children. We both decided to move and get settled into our next “forever home” prior to kids starting kindergarden. While we firmly believe we’ve done the right thing, moving and all, it was not an easy task. There was a lot of unknown and a lot more to consider when moving with kids. Today we’ve compiled 10 lessons we’ve learned from moving with kids.
"All great change is pre-ceded by chaos" - deepak chopra
"If you want change, be willing to sacrifice comfort"
“It’s going to be hard but hard is not impossible”
Kendra Hennessy is a home management expert, podcast host and the founder of Mother like a Boss, where she helps busy modern moms become homemakerish. Her mission is to redefine homemaking in the 21st century and make the difficult and tedious parts of running your home smoother through systems, routines and mindset shifts. She lives in upstate NY with her husband Adam and their two spunky kiddos, Ava and Everett. Kendra is a Girl Scout co-leader, quoter of The Office and coffee junkie. She loves providing support and encouragement to the moms of the world and giving them the confidence they need to enjoy life as a mother.
Today I want to talk about what suffering is (and isn't) and how we can begin to shift our mindset from the feeling BLAH life is SO HARD and Uncomfortable to feeling blessed for EVERYTHING that comes from being a Mom
This year, Emily and myself decided our theme of 2018 was going to be focused around solving our day to day issues through simplifying our lives. You’ll notice this theme throughout our podcast guests and our comments and decisions in our lives. You will also see it throughout our bookclub readings this year. This month’s Book Club recap is on Simplicity Parenting; using the extraordinary power of less to raise calmer, happier and more secure kids by Kim John Payne who is a researcher, counselor and private consultant.
Mamas, today I’m talking with two very sweet people. Today I’m chatting with Rebecca and Kaitlyn, two very talented nurses and Lactation Consultants. Rebecca and Kaitlyn have a practice here in the midwest called Nourish Lactation Services. What they do is provide quality, compassionate, evidence-based lactation support to families. Their mission is to provide families with support through all stages of lactation, from the prenatal period to weaning your little one and all challenges in between. Today we are doing a 4 person chat! Emily is also here today. Between the two of us, we are going to ask as many questions as we can and hopefully you will leave here feeling equipped to rock your breastfeeding journey. Look I’ve read all the what to expect when you are expecting and through age one but I will say it was horribly lacking when it came to information on breastfeeding.
In this episode we asked these ladies...
- What services you offer to moms
- the biggest challenges you see moms face
- how to make it through the hard times of breastfeeding
- the benefits of breastfeeding
- what are some good vitamins to be on when nursing
- how to avoid mastitis
- what kinds of foods actually cause fussy babies
- what age do they recommend to get on a bottle
- how about alcohol what’s actually safe
- how to wean and best practices
- Any other information you want to get out there
To find out more about these ladies check them out on their website! http://nourishqc.com
Intro: We go so fast. We wake up and rush to get ourselves and our kids ready whether it is for work, school, daycare. Whatever it is, It’s in a rush. We zip to and fro and make decisions all the time that effect us and our well being. Sometimes don’t realize a bad decision until after we make it. If you are feeling stuck, are currently facing a big decision, are worried about the future of your kids, are wondering if you should work or stay home or lean in and take a promotion or go on this vacation or be friends with a certain person or bring a new baby into the picture, there are a few things you can have in place to help bring long term success and happiness. There are things you can have in place to make sure that life goes a bit more smoothly. Now you are still going to make decisions and realize after the fact that it isn’t whats best for the family, but, if you know the following three things, you will have WAY more confidence in decision making and will know how to create and stable family. So, that when troubles come a knocking because no one is invincible to this, you will have a few things in place to bring comfort, peace and alliance with one another. You will have the tools to have crucial conversations and know how to get back on track and back to the right path within your family. And the best part is, by establishing these three things, you’ll be able to pass these skills and rituals and feelings onto your children. Who, we hope will find just as much value in them. These things include, crafting a family mission statement, setting proper expectations, and understanding what’s important for YOUR families development growth and bond.
My guest today is Brooke Sailer. Brooke is a thinker, writer, artist, teacher, singer, gift-giver, and also a diaper changer, shoelace-tier and lunch packer. She married a handsome bachelor after dating for only one month and ten days! She recently published this little book called “I’m Failing At This Thing Called Home” - It’s a book about her thoughts on changing the narrative embracing possibilities and re-making the home. Every page you turn in her book is filled with words of encouragement amidst the chaos and messy moments of life. It was a natural fit for us here at Catch This Mama because Brooke is encouraging us to take ownership of our mom life. More specifically, she is showing us how we can change the way we drudge through our day to day lives. Brooke asks the question “feeling like a failure amidst chaos and mess? and then gives the straightforward and so very true answer of… You’re not.” Today I want to talk to Brooke about how she overcame her own obstacles and adversities and what she is doing to show you how you can get off the struggle bus too.
In this episode I chat with Brooke about the following...
Your book was just lovely. Easy to read. Empowering. It is like you have it is all together and it is wonderful to see you’ve decided to teach what you’ve figured out. But, you weren’t always on this side of the fence. Tell me where you were prior to writing this book.
What do you want to accomplish with this book?
A pivotal part for me was in the beginning of the book when you talked about distractions. I SO resonate with this. You say “Our distractions are defining us, and I’m finally saying enough” AMEN! Tell me what you mean by all of this…
I recently heard a quote that was something along the lines of “When you see something wrong in the world, you can either do nothing or something and I’ve already tried nothing.” It reminded me of your “it’s all in your head chapter” - Talk to me about what a fixed mindset and growth mindset is and how we can apply this in our personal lives today.
How do you combat the idea of immediate gratification and switch to the idea that it is a journey and not a destination. What I mean by this is… you have this person who is ready to start. They start on the journey to reach their desired GOAL or mission.. except they set unrealistic expectations and because they don’t hit it right away, they stop and give up.
You talk extensively about changing the narrative. This is an especially great thought. How can we change the narrative and what do you mean by this?
First talk to us about what a capsule wardrobe is and why we should have it.
In one particular chapter you talk about giving your home a make-over or as you describe it “re-make your home” Can you give Mamas a few tips on how to figure out what is important (valuable), how to make a plan, and what kinds of plans are worthy of making?
What else do you have up your sleeve in the future when it comes to your business?
Today’s episode is all about decision making. I began wondering why we are all so overworked, overtired and overwhelmed in our day to day grind. What I’ve found is it comes down to the pure amount of decisions we make in a day and how many obligations we try to squeeze in a day. Small or large these are decisions we make that contribute to the end result of feeling like you have nothing left to give at the end of the day. They come as a result of making too many new decisions and having too many options. I asked Emily to do an impromptu assignment today and just simply write down the decisions she’s had to make on a single days time. This doesn’t include decisions she’d have to make if it weren’t a weekend where she had extra help with her husband being home. After we break this down I’m going to give you three ways we can streamline motherhood so we aren’t left as feeling so OVERWHELMED in the day to day grind. So that when 7pm comes we aren’t tossing in our ear plugs and running as fast as we can to scrape a wine bottle from the cabinet. Okay… we might still want the wine at the end of the day but, maybe it’ll at least move us from the feeling of over I’m just SO over it…. to I feel so accomplished today!
My guest today is Laura Harrison!
Laura founded Jonas Paul Eyewear with her husband Ben in 2013 shortly after her first child, Jonas, was born with a rare-eye condition (Jonas has had a total of 21 eye surgeries).
Laura decided to leave her career to launch Jonas Paul Eyewear with the mission of helping children feel beautiful in their glasses while at the same time providing sight to children in need with every purchase.
Since its founding, the company has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post, and NBC Today Show, and has garnered numerous awards for its social responsibility and design.
Laura is a dedicated wife and mother to Jonas (4 yrs) and Sophie (2 yrs) and lives in Grand Rapids, MI. When she's not innovating for Jonas Paul Eyewear, she enjoys Netflix bingeing, cooking, and participating in her multiple clubs (book, podcast and dinner)!
Welcome my friends, we are so excited you chose to listen to this episode. To be honest with you, this is probably way overdue. You may hear us talk about owning you mom life on just about every forum possible. But, we felt it would be good to give you a little encouragement by breaking down what it means or could mean if you truly owned your mom life.
So, the dictionary described the word OWN as the following…
To have (something) as one's own; possess.
You own your life. No one owns it but you. You could say this is my own family and my own mom life
another way to look at “own” is in it’s formal context…
admit or acknowledge that something is the case or that one feels a certain way.
For example, we are owning up to the fact we aren’t perfect as Mamas.
I really think to own your mom life is both of those. You are acknowledging your life in it’s current state and owning up to everything it is.
You are taking a gut check and asking yourself, how are you doing? What does life look like right now? The good. The bad. and the ugly.
You are then saying…
You know what, regardless of the flaws and the imperfections I possess this life. It is mine, it is no one else that can bring me happiness it is me myself and I, that can choose to be grateful and grace filled and content in the life that I have. So, I am going to choose to own this mom life.
Key things you should do if you want to get a state in which you truly own your mom life
- Find things that are good RIGHT where you are. Realize it isn’t and didn’t go according to plan, but that’s okay. “Expectation lessens gratitude” - so change your expectation. It doesn’t mean you that you shouldn’t want a clean house or a good job or a happy life… but rather understand that if your house is dirty and you are so frustrated that it isn’t clean even though you’ve picked up 10 times today alone, it’s okay. The good right there is that your kids played. They used their big little brains to grow and learn and create. What better gratification as a Mom is there than that. So, find the good right where you are.
- Ask yourself what you want your life to look like - and then ask is that where I am? How can I live more like that each day?
- When in a wounded state of confusion, exhaustion, disappoint, it is easy to blame others, but even when you feel like it is someone else’s fault, ask yourself, what can I do differently? What can I change in my thoughts and my actions? For example, say your husband is sick and goes into the bedroom while you are left to care for the kids and do all the work. It’s easy to think WTF when I’m sick I do everything and don’t get a break. Am I right Mama? But, what if we thought what can I do differently? Maybe it means you go take care of yourself in a room next time you are sick. Maybe it means, you are capable of handling things a little better and at this point in time we could choose to offer grace and comfort to the person who loves you most in life.
- Choose both - Sometimes we set such strict boundaries
- I want to be a good christian which means I shouldn’t idolize things but I love a good house and a good outfit - that’s okay to choose both!
- I want to be a good friend and go to their birthday party but I’m super tired and my kids are all sick - you can choose both - take your friend out to lunch on a day where it won’t drain you and stay home and get well
- I want to be healthy but that mexican food and that cookie look mighty good. Choose both. Exercise, eat mostly good and for pete’s sake give into the desire of the cookie and glass of wine. It’s okay!
- I want to be a REALLY good Mom and be with them as much as possible but I’m going a little insane and wish I could get out more or bring in some income or vice versa(maybe you want to stop working and stay home) - CHOOSE BOTH - create a life that uniquely fits you. You don’t need to fit the mold.
We need to realize that it isn’t a one size fits all, all or nothing, must do it perfectly or else we aren’t good enough.
Sometimes we are going to do good and sometimes we are going to say things that hurt others. But, that’s part of connection. And in life, all we want is connection to one another. So, let’s be vulnerable and positive in the belief and offering of grace and connection to one another. Be open to that and know that sometimes mistakes happen but if we can show others grace and even more important is show YOURSELF grace and realize you are NOT defined by your bad decision or mistake or mistep, or accident, then you will be that much closer to our whole mantra over here at Catch This Mama.
Alright friends, I’m going to shoot it to you straight. Mom life is so rewarding. It is the most life changing and humbling and comforting and lovely thing in the entire world. But, it is also so stinking hard. Its hard to keep your patience when something happens for the 50th time. It’s hard to feel comforted when you never get a hot second to yourself. It’s hard to feel like you matter when your meals and coffee are always cold. I mean remember the story of gold locks and the three little bears? She tried Mamas porridge but it was too cold. Never made sense as a kid. TOTALLY makes sense as a Mom. When mommin’ feels hard we can come up with ways to gain our center BEFORE we lose it. One way we can do this is through meditation. Today’s episode is going to be from us, two non experts but super fans of the stuff. So, let’s get to it.
In this episode we dive into:
- What meditation is
- Importance of meditation
- Types of Meditation
- A Quick meditation session
“Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest”
“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” -Buddha