I've been feeling angsty. I've been feeling uncomfortable because we are in between homes and living out of boxes.
Piles of crumbs crackle underneath my feet where the carpet used to be because my vacuum is currently out of order.
My kids are sick, which means they are needy. In fact, as I type this(with one hand), I've got one child under my arms and the other at my feet. Which then means, I get nothing done for CTM. I love cuddling them but if I don't get me time, I become irritable.
My daughter has been making a point to ever so gently grab my extra soft tummy, which gives me a daily reminder that is has been over a year since structured exercise has been in my life. Ugh. That alone, makes me cringe.
The holidays and all 3 kids' birthdays are approaching and for the first time since starting a family, I am not contributing monetarily like I used to and it is driving me to look for jobs... outside of Catch This Mama.
Oh, and speaking of money, when I'm feeling angsty, I think it is a really good idea to buy stuff. Initially, I think it is going to be just the pick me up I needed. But then it just leads to buyers remorse and a more cluttered house.
I preach words of encouragement, and provide resources to you each week with the hope that it will get you off this angsty struggle bus and into a place of contentment. I am going to be vulnerable today and tell you that I'm in the trenches with you, Mama. I wouldn't change my family for anything, but it doesn't mean it is always awesome. I fall flat in the parenting arena every day. But, when trouble and discontentment comes a knocking, here is what we can do, together.
1. FORGET PLAN B - Part of the angst in my life comes from feeling like what I'm doing isn't going to make it. Like, I'm going to fail. I am so scared of failing that I go to plan B without giving plan A a shot. But, the reality is plan B is just a backup to what we've got going on right now. So, forget about it. Keep pursuing what you are pursuing. If work is slow, or your kids are driving you crazy, or money is tight, take a hot minute to think about your ultimate goal. Are you working for that? Then, keep going. Because, if you went to plan B, your kids are still going to drive you crazy and you will still look for challenges and you'll then look for a new plan B. So, stick with it girl! You got this.
2. Say EW! to the way it was supposed to go - Who likes perfect people? Or at least the people who pretend to be perfect. Ew. So, Why would we want it all to go perfectly? We have a saying at our house... we may not have it all together, but together we have it all. Which brings me to my final point.
3. Remember The Why - When we are feeling discontent a lot of times it is because we've forgotten why we are doing what we are doing in the first place. Don't like your job? Well, why did you initially take it? Don't like your house? Well, why did you buy it in the first place? Don't like your family? Well, now you've got a problem. Just kidding… But, remember why you married your man in the first place. Remembering the why will change your reference point BACK to where it should be. Remembering why you wanted something in the first place and realizing you have exactly what you need, will help bring more satisfaction as you go about your day to day grind.
I have been working hard every morning, at every nap time, and every night to provide resources to ensure that you Mamas feel empowered to find contentment and happiness right where you are. In the thick of the chaos and meltdowns, I want you to feel comforted by the fact that we all go through crap, and it is normal! Every day of our lives we work HARD to be good Mamas and we rarely, if ever, are thanked for endless hours of serving our families. So, today I want to say thank you. Thank you for taking the time to listen and learn and grow and seek here at Catch This Mama. Thank you for making dinner last night. Thank you for the baths you gave your kiddos. Thank you. Today, and every day, you are enough. You keep fighting the good fight and keep the faith, because it is worth it.
Still feeling stuck? Let's chat. I'd love to work through it with you. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org OR contact me right here on this website. In the mean time, check out my "Design Your Life" tab at the top of this page and see if you think we'd be a good fit.