Have you ever had a time in your life where everything went right for a change? You know what I'm talking about. You laid down that night, but had a tough time falling asleep because your mind was racing with all of the successes you had that day. Maybe you received a promotion. Or, maybe it was as simple as you got everything on your to do list, DONE! Maybe, your tiny child walked for the first time. Or, possibly you are anxiously awaiting to find out if you received a job you just interviewed for. Perhaps you are feeling good because after months of unsuccessfully trying for a baby, you received hope from a doctor that this could be the month to get pregnant! Or, maybe you are like me, who earlier this year was anxiously awaiting the sale of a home, the birth of a third child, and the launch of your new website and business, all while handling the normal day to day luxury of being an employee, mama and wifey.
Fast forward a few days after that great day. Your kid is puking on you. Your house didn't sell, but the one down the street did. Your current job has you secretly cussing out every person who adds something to your pile of work. Your pregnancy feels like it is moving at a snail's pace and you look down in wonder at the tree trunks that used to be ankles with a deep sigh. This list goes on. It all sounds so familiar right? It's like life just punched you in the face.
This is my daughter. She was running as fast as her wobbly little legs could go when she splatted like a bug on a windshield, into the pavement on our sidewalk. Tears instantly filled her eyes. She cried and cried as her scratched little legs and nose bled a wee-little bit. We held her tightly. Her biggest fear was the thought of kids laughing the next day at school. I let her know that when kids ask her what happened, she can throw up her hands and say I fell hard, but I'm tough. She thought that was a good answer. (Maybe because she is 3 and trusts everything her Mama says but hey, let me enjoy the fact that she thought I was knowledgeable, okay? ). About 30 minutes later we put some tiny mickey mouse band-aids on her boo-boos and she paraded around the house with her battle wounds. She proclaimed that she couldn't wait to go to school to show the kids what had happened. She specifically pointed out the scratches on her legs and said, "Look Mom! They are already healing." At the point I realized that this pretty silly example provided me with a great lesson for those times when life punches you in the face.
1. Embrace the pain - Acknowledge that it sucks. Cry if you need to. Let someone hold you while you vent out with frustration. It's okay to know things aren't going your way. Everyone reacts to rotten situations in a different way. However you choose to let it out, do it. (Just don't hurt anyone in the process of your embrace)
2. Think about what you would change - What could you do differently to make your situation different and better? Most times you'll find it is the wrong choices we make in life, that show us where we actually ought to be.
3. Be proud of the battle wounds - You, my friend, are a beautiful mama for every mistake, situation and position you've been in. Don't hide behind the wrong choices you've made. Be proud of the grit and grind you survive each and every day. Take your baggage and hop on a plane, because you are going somewhere with it!
4. Focus on the healing - When life punches you in the face, it isn't always a bad thing. It's a way to learn, grow and strengthen your God given talents. Getting punched in the face is uncomfortable and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. But sometimes, it's often necessary because the healing that follows is what leads to clarity.
So, have you been knocked down lately? Have you encountered a moment you thought was going to be utter bliss just to fall flat on your face? What's holding you back from thriving? I'd like to know. Get in touch with me on Instagram or Facebook or simply email me at email@example.com. If you liked this article, you will love our podcast that is in the making. Each episode will feature a Mama who has faced adversity and overcome those obstacles to get to where they are today.
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