Kids are amazing little creatures, I tell you. They have an ability to run circles around you 5,000 times while screaming the song "Let it Go" at a noise level you didn't know was humanly possible. They can consistently say NO to delicious, homemade food that you've spent hours creating and perfecting for their picky palates leaving you exhausted and confused. I mean, c'mon, who can turn down FOOD? They can pee freely in any location, at any point and not feel guilty for their actions. When things don't go their way, they can contort their bodies into octagon like shapes falling into screaming fits of rage, leaving us looking and feeling like fools when we are in public places. Kids are the most honest people we know. They are the first to point out if you have a zit on your face, a big bottom, a weird hat, a bad dance move, or a bald head. They are so darn persistent about what they want. You can see one of my daily discussions below...
Child: MOM! Can I have a M&M's and popsicles and pretzels for dinner?
Mom: No, that is definitely not healthy.
Child: Please!? Just a teensy-weensy little snack?
Mom: You have to eat dinner first and if you eat it all, you can have a snack.
Child: [Starting to cry] NO! I don't want dinner. I just want a snack!
Mom: Fine. You can have a snack! But, it has to be healthy. How about a banana?
Child: How about a popsicle and a banana?
I know you can relate. Some days my head is spinning and I can't help but wonder if I was cut out for this gig. How do we help them make better choices? How do we control their actions? They can't be asking us or strangers to wipe their bottoms forever! Can they? In these moments when you can hardly breathe because you feel so overwhelmed by their need to consume every second of your day, take a deep breath and think about how cool it is that they believe, think and act the way they do. We could definitely learn a thing or two from them.
1. They don't take no for an answer - If we did more of this in our lives, just think of what we'd get accomplished. Next time you are interviewing for your dream job, negotiating a car price, asking for forgiveness or simply wanting to get your hands around a warm chocolate chip cookie, be persistent until you get what you deserve.
2. They are honest - If we were slightly more upfront with our feelings, or could tactfully face tough situations with pure honesty, we would probably find ourselves much more content. Filter is good though. Don't follow your kid's suit in telling your best bud she has a big booty. That may not go over too well.
3. They do not judge - Young children don't care if you are rich or poor, tall or short, young or old, smart or not so smart, they just accept. They do not care about your socio economic status or if you drive the newest luxury vehicle. Next time you feel the sense of judgment coming on for the girl who isn't paying attention to her kid at the park because she is stuck in her phone, judge less. We don't know why she is doing that, so let's just stop assuming she is a bad mom.
4. They play - That is their life. We, as parents, work, take care of kiddos, cook, clean, sleep and sometimes that is all we ever take time to do. We need play. Play lowers our blood pressure and raises our spirits. Personally, our family likes to do dance offs. Are we good dancers? No way... but the second that music goes on, the chaos stops. For that moment, we don't think about how bad our work day was, what bills need to be paid, what health concern or news is facing us. We simply play.
5. They love - Your kids may cry when it is time for bed or hit when they are frustrated, but they have a quality that we all should embrace more. Often times I find myself complaining a little at the fact they need our attention every waking moment. But, when I actually take time to think about it, I love the fact that my girls need and love me so much that they yearn to for my attention. It is a blessing to feel needed. What if we went out and let others know we needed them? What if we asked for help a little more often in life. What if we gave spotlight to someone's expertise and let them know how impressive they are at their craft? Take time to show love.
Angela Schwindt got it right when she said "While we try to teach our children all about life, Our children teach us what life is all about."
Best Wishes to you Mamas this holiday season!